The Market Grandma and Your Mental Health

You know that older woman at the market who always says something kind to you? Or the one who looks you up and down and comments on what you’re wearing? Believe it or not, both of them can affect your mood far more than you might think.

Micro-interactions and mental health

Our day is filled with small interactions — with neighbours, shopkeepers, colleagues, and strangers. Each of these leaves a small mark on how we feel. A friendly smile from a stranger lifts us up; a harsh word can ruin our whole day.

A systemic view of everyday relationships

In systemic therapy, we look at a person within the context of all their relationships. That includes not just family and close friends, but the wider environment as well. How we respond to these everyday situations says a lot about us — our values, our expectations, and our patterns.

Next time the market grandma compliments you — accept it graciously. And when a stranger’s words sting — remember, that says far more about them than it does about you.